We often talk about having a ‘crush’ on a certain girl or a certain guy depending on our sexuality (I am also including the LGBT community in my discourse). But do we actually know as to what we are deliberating upon or more specifically do we actually mean what we verbally express. Now, depending on the intensity of the ‘crush’, it might metamorphose to the next logical step which in popular parlance is called ‘love’. I have tried albeit in vein to go deep down into this whole phenomenon and ascertain the exact anatomy of this process. At one point in time in my life, I used to think that ‘love’ is actually a sugar-coated term for sexual attraction, but then how would you go about defining the phenomenon when it goes beyond the normal sexual relationship as in the cases of our parents. The ironical contradictions start right from here. But would this relationship happen between two heterosexual guys or two heterosexual girls? The answer is a forgone conclusion which is a ‘no’. Then what is it which goes about bonding two individuals? Seriously, I am pretty sure that even the best psychologists would not be able to come up with one single convincing answer. A lot of psychoanalysts have tried to unravel the mystery behind this process. In the course, umpteen theories have cropped up but the sum and substance of the phenomenon has remained an elusive entity. What exactly happens when an individual gets attracted to another individual? Biologists would say that certain hormones work in tandem to create this feeling. But is it really that simple or does it go beyond what is obvious and on the face? In fact, why is it that only one individual from a crowd attracts another individual? I mean, these are certain questions whose answers are not as simple as we deem them to be. If we are to analyze this process in detail, then we have to take some specific examples.
Rahul (Name changed) saw Anita (Name changed) in a wedding ceremony. Rahul for some reason continued to stare at Anita although he had no idea as to who this girl was. After some time, he went ahead and got introduced with the girl and within no time became good friends. The ending of the story is not important. The most significant part of the story is that Rahul got attracted to only Anita amongst a bevy of girls present in the party. So, biologists, how would you guys explain as to what was so special about Anita? If we were to follow the case in its totality, we would be able to appreciate that Rahul continued thinking about Anita even after he was done with the wedding party and it was not all about sex although it might have been a part of his thinking which is nothing but natural.
If we dissect literature from across the world, it can be seen that 'love' has been romanticized and immortalized to the extent that it is viewed as a special creation of nature. According to my very own ignorant interpretation, it has been done to erase the physical aspects of the process and give it a divine form. May be it is inherent in men to castigate all physical processes as vulgar and not worthy to talk about although we do find mentions of physical beauties in ancient Indian literature which have been brandished as erotic scriptures by the western pundits. I vehemently oppose this partial approach to 'love' as it is intrinsically related to physical satisfaction. And there lies the beauty of 'love'. A person can offer his/her body to another individual only when he/she is comfortable with the other individual and that happens only when he/she trusts and thus loves the other individual. Although, skeptics might argue that in the present age of instant gratification, these words are all but idealistic but even he deep down his heart knows this to be true.
Rahul (Name changed) saw Anita (Name changed) in a wedding ceremony. Rahul for some reason continued to stare at Anita although he had no idea as to who this girl was. After some time, he went ahead and got introduced with the girl and within no time became good friends. The ending of the story is not important. The most significant part of the story is that Rahul got attracted to only Anita amongst a bevy of girls present in the party. So, biologists, how would you guys explain as to what was so special about Anita? If we were to follow the case in its totality, we would be able to appreciate that Rahul continued thinking about Anita even after he was done with the wedding party and it was not all about sex although it might have been a part of his thinking which is nothing but natural.
If we dissect literature from across the world, it can be seen that 'love' has been romanticized and immortalized to the extent that it is viewed as a special creation of nature. According to my very own ignorant interpretation, it has been done to erase the physical aspects of the process and give it a divine form. May be it is inherent in men to castigate all physical processes as vulgar and not worthy to talk about although we do find mentions of physical beauties in ancient Indian literature which have been brandished as erotic scriptures by the western pundits. I vehemently oppose this partial approach to 'love' as it is intrinsically related to physical satisfaction. And there lies the beauty of 'love'. A person can offer his/her body to another individual only when he/she is comfortable with the other individual and that happens only when he/she trusts and thus loves the other individual. Although, skeptics might argue that in the present age of instant gratification, these words are all but idealistic but even he deep down his heart knows this to be true.
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Love flu is the in the air and it sure is overpowering Swine flu :-)
Love can exist between any two humans (and i mean any). It can take a physical turn at a given moment, but it would be very difficult to decide when (as rightly point out by Sunayan). I completely agree with you my friend, its difficult to comprehend what this feeling is, why it would happen with one person and not the other. But still it happens to everyone, at one point or the other in his/her life time.
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